Let me start out by saying that this is not what I had imagined my first official blog post would be like. To be completely honest with you, I wasn’t ever planning on writing anything too serious. I figured I would just write about how business is going, maybe some recent experiences related to my work as a floral designer and obviously throw in some buzz words to help with marketing! But today I was reminded of something I have had to relearn over and over again. I know I will have to learn it at least another 1000 times before I actually live by it, but I am one step closer each time! This time though, I decided I wanted to share it because it inspired me to be a better business owner, family member, and friend. But most importantly, it reminded me to be a better me.
As we all already know, expectations are inevitable. Everyone has them and everyone has the right to have them. I’m not sure about the rest of you, but sometimes my expectations do a lot of damage. I don’t know, maybe I’m a dreamer? Maybe I have an overactive imagination? Maybe I am trying to overcompensate for something? It’s probably all of those actually, but that’s not the point. The point is that sometimes we get this idea of what things are supposed to be like and then we forget what things are really like. We forget about the wonderful reality of our lives because we think that we are still so far from where we are supposed to be.
Often times I start thinking that expectations are a bad thing and that all they do is bring sadness and heartbreak. But that is so far from the truth. Expectations keep me going, they give me something to work for and the idea of them helps to motivate me. I have always been the type that sets high expectations for myself and it has been rewarding and damaging. I have also been that person that sets high expectations for others. Which, just the same, has been rewarding and damaging (to me and those around me). So how do I balance it? How do I benefit from having expectations but also stay sane when things don’t go quite as planned?
I expect happiness. This might sound silly, but let me explain. I realized that all of my expectations had one thing in common; the result of them would make me happy. Everything from business goals to my dating life, the expectations were things I thought I had to have in order to be happy. After I realized this, I was somewhat appalled with myself. When did I become so entitled? My parents definitely didn’t teach me that!
The only thing in this life that I am entitled to is happiness. But I was letting all my other expectations control that because I had become so vulnerable to everything around me. I expected certain things and when they didn’t go my way I felt like I was being robbed of something, that in reality, I never actually owned.
Starting today I am going to be better at expecting nothing but happiness. Maybe I’m cheating because I have full control of my happiness but it is going to take a lot of patience and practice before I learn how to choose happiness even when things get hard.
I hope this helps at least one person who reads it but even if it doesn’t, I will use it to hold myself accountable. I’m excited to be busy and feel like I am losing it because it means I get to interact and work with so many people who help me become a better me.
Thanks for letting me learn from you 🙂